For Leslie Absher, secrecy is just another member of the family. Throughout childhood, her father’s shadowy government job was ill-defined, her mother’s mental health stayed off limits–even her queer identity remained hidden from her family and unacknowledged by Leslie herself.
In Spy Daughter, Queer Girl, Absher pursues the truth: of her family, her identity, and her father’s role in Greece’s CIA-backed junta. As a guide, Absher brings readers to the shade of plane trees in Greece, to queer discos in Boston, and to tense diner meals with her aging CIA father. As a memoirist, Absher renders a lifetime of hazy, shapeshifting truths in high-definition vibrance.
Infused with a journalist’s tenacity and a daughter’s open heart, this book recounts a decades’ long process of discovery and the reason why the facts should matter to us all.
A riveting examination of identity and how the people who raise us make us—and how we all must continually remake ourselves. A moving portrait of a father-daughter relationship defined by secrets so big they spanned continents. Absher writes with heart, humor, and the grace that comes with forgiveness—the ultimate mission impossible.Jessica Pearce Rotondi, author of What We Inherit: A Secret War and a Family’s Search for Answers.
Without a drop of sentimentality but with a giant heart and a fresh, assured voice, Absher explores the roles of memory, secrets, and the grief that comes from what we hide and what we leave behind — and what we simply cannot.Natalie Bakopoulos
associate professor and author of Scorpionfish and The Green Shore
Leslie tells her story with soul-searing honesty, plenty of self-deprecation and humour. In working through her own story, confronting her difficult past, she’s revealed the human damage – most often to innocents – inflicted by the espionage “game” played out on the global chessboard.Ian Callaghan
producer of the Audible Original series My Dad the Spy
Leslie Absher is a journalist and essayist. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Huffington Post, Salon, Ms., Greek Reporter, and San Francisco Magazine.
Her father joined the CIA before she was born. Shortly after her family moved to Athens, Greece. Just in time for a coup. She spent years trying to learn what her Cold War father’s role was in that event. Her memoir Spy Daughter, Queer Girl is about growing up with a spy and the cost of keeping secrets. She received a master’s in education from Harvard, taught G.E.D. to high school dropouts, and currently teaches writing and study skills to middle school and high school students. She lives in Oakland with her comic book writer/lawyer wife.
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My Life As The Gay Daughter Of A U.S. Spy
“He took an oath of secrecy at 26 but I on the other hand was born into it.”
A gut-wrenching portrait of a daughter in search of her father’s love, affection, and attention, with Greece as a backdrop and the CIA always in the shadows. It is a cautionary tale about the effects of parental neglect, and ultimately a long overdue and touching reconciliation between father and daughter. I loved the book as a Greek American, a former CIA officer, and the father of a brave LGBTQ activist who may have felt many similar emotions growing up in a CIA family.Marc Polymeropoulos, former CIA senior intelligence officer and author of Clarity in Crisis: Leadership Lessons from the CIA
As the child of intelligence officers, I was deeply moved by Leslie Absher’s book. More than a poignant memoir, it is a thrilling detective story where the stakes are both unique to the child of an intelligence officer and painfully universal. It is a beautiful and expertly crafted exploration of our need for love, connection, and home. Her story broke my heart and engrossed me the whole way.Sophia Glock, cartoonist and author of the graphic memoir Passport
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